Election Thoughts: The Rumble, Jolt and Surprise

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We’re all shocked after the elections.  Some are truly happy, some are devastated and there are others that were lacking enthusiasm for however the results panned out either way.  But I think we all can agree that we are surprised by what’s happened.  What has been interesting isn’t the jolt that we’re going to have a presidency that will be dramatically different from what we’ve had maybe ever.  What’s surprising is the manner in which so many of us have handled the rumble.

I see statements that now America is putting behind a corrupt political system.  That if you voted democrat you are for corruption, murder and lies in the White House.  If you’re a democrat you’re okay with letting ISIS into our country via the southern border. Or if you voted republican that you are a misogynist, a racist, anti woman, homophobic and it’s likely you didn’t get a bachelors degree and you’re white. If you voted third party you’re sheeple, a self righteous purist, an idiot for throwing your vote away and it actually was a vote for the bad guy.

Congratulations, we all have been called things that are untrue.

I have some sincere questions and thoughts to share with you my dear reader for whom I have empathy and a deep respect for.  I get how exciting, joyful, apathetic and maddening it all is right now and I want nothing more than for you to feel heard. I know that your view matters greatly.  But I want you to consider how much your opinion matters.

Where do we consider drawing a line in the sand to rein in our opinions?  How much value is in the weight of your words and is it worth polarizing yourself from the other half of the country?

By your passion to let your voice be heard you’re enjoying the right we have to a voice as Americans and it’s at the cost of your respect for a significant portion of the people you share life with.  Here’s the hinge that this ramble is about.  Does your opinion cut you off from others?  If it does, is it seriously worth it?  If your opinion requires insults, belittlement and costing relationship with half of the country I’m sorry, but you are closed minded.  I find it genuinely confusing to see so many say that others need to have an open mind and yet after the election I see the very same people say that they will have nothing to do with anyone who voted for opponent of their favored candidate.

And finally, have you even considered how hard it is to hate someone and what their views are if you were looking them in the eye while trying to prove them wrong?

Don’t let this be the beginning of division.  Let this be an opportunity to stop commenting on every post that provides an opposing argument and instead suggest meeting that person across the table for coffee so you can find a window of understanding into how they formed that view.  Challenge yourself.  See if you can call someone a racist to their face after you take the time to really see them.  I’m thinking it would be tough to call someone an ISIS promoter if you found out why they feel the way they do.

Take the chance to see people.  Use this season as the means to become more loving, more empathetic and to not forget that the other half of the country that voted differently than you are authentic and good people for the most part.  They’re parents who want to see it better for their kids and grand kids.  They’re owners of that business you love in your community.  They’re your coworkers, employers and customers.  They’re your family.  Your children.  Each person despite of who they voted for is a chance to love and honor them for being as human as you are.

Handle the the surprise with grace.  Recognize the jolt and be humble.  See the goodness of so many people who are different than you.  Realize we’re all gonna grow from this.  See that as individuals we face the choice to make America be great not because it ever lost greatness but because we are what makes it such if we’re in it together.

 

With so much love,

Sara

My Disparate Sense of Right and Wrong

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So my mind is baffled for which I’ll only be able to ask questions and not even begin to have the confidence to attempt any answers in the following.

Have we tried to make our character as a species an intellectual conversation?  And is it even possible that we have been going about the conversation in a very disconnected way? Like, we have maybe been trying to water the plant with milk and are perplexed as to why it dies.

We all walk around with an innate sense of what we feel to be right and wrong and are governed by what we feel to be our one true moral compass.  We have a true north that we know is the one right way in which our world spins on its axle.  We even can have a fellow tribe that feels the same gravitational pull as we do.  You can have a group of five people stand in a circle in a valley and agree that the sun rises behind that mountain and sets behind that other one every single day and therefor you all universalize that that’s the truth of where your little world begins and ends.  The only problem is that there can be another little clan of people living in a neighboring valley on the other side of that mountain where the sun rises who would argue with you that it’s the mountain the sun sets behind.  Well you’re both right, right?  You both can find a thousand ways to argue about your little worlds which are really tiny little spreads on the grander scheme of whats out there and that you both belong to whether you like it or not.  And the problem is that you both would be right in your fighting.

So do you see what I mean?  Like that weird little example, have we failed to see that in our arguments of what is right and wrong that we are failing by the degree to which we are keeping the content at an intellectual level versus what the spiritual reality might be?  Is it really small minded to hope for and feel that there is indeed one gravitational pull that pulls all of our souls to one source?  That there is something deeper to all of us which has a sense of what our character should be?

This would be the worse essay to submit to a professor back when I was attempting college because I literally have no conclusion aside from asking questions.  Have you ever considered how you have defended and argued the issue of character in your idea of humanity?  Are you trying to resolve what is right and wrong by your intellectual capacity to do so?  Do you feel that we all can accept our little worlds of understanding and be okay with accepting the notion of, “Well if it feels right to you than it must be right”?  Would you be confident in that reasoning if you were having a conversation with the man just a few minutes before he walked into a club in Orlando and killed all those people just a few months ago?

I know those are too many questions without any conclusions which might seem cowardly on my part.  But there you have it!

With so much love,

Sara